Beemerboy
Just One More Coat
I ran this on a BMW site last week, just to get this off my mind...I received a lot of replies to the thread..some very positive & understanding, others offering up money manging tips and others that will less than positive because of passed issues in the same area...I thought to post it here just to see what you all think...I know there is one member here that posts at this BMW site that posted on that thread as well....thanks for listening
In November of last year, I fell on some hard times with income, and asked a good friend if he could lend me $500 for about a month…it took me about 3 months to get that back to him and communicated that during that time, income didn’t pickup until the top of the year. During that second & third month this guy was all over me about the cash, stating what I had promised. I told him that I would set up a payment plan but he wanted the whole amount at once. So I saved up until that point and sent him a cashier’s check. The phone calls went to emails and gradually turned nasty to the point that I stopped responding. Until I sent him the check and then it stopped completely.
What bothers me most about this is during that time that I owed him the cash and the last 8 years. I have known this person we got to know each other very well…when he received a DUI, I was his wheels for a while driving him about every where I could. He lives close to 12 miles round trip for me.
I invited him to dinner with my family, once to twice a week, mostly weekends and holidays and even picked him up so that I could help him save on the taxi one way…I can safely say that was at least 400 times. I cooked private dinner parties up at his house, and helped him in many ways with out hesitation, over the years..IMO I could have not offered this person more of myself than I did. I figured that’s what friendship was all about.
However I can’t get over that $500 was the deal breaker on a 8 year friendship. Maybe that friendship wasn't as deep as I was led to believe? who knows?
Thanks for listening I guess the thing about, do not borrow money from friends unless you want to ruin it is true in this case.
In November of last year, I fell on some hard times with income, and asked a good friend if he could lend me $500 for about a month…it took me about 3 months to get that back to him and communicated that during that time, income didn’t pickup until the top of the year. During that second & third month this guy was all over me about the cash, stating what I had promised. I told him that I would set up a payment plan but he wanted the whole amount at once. So I saved up until that point and sent him a cashier’s check. The phone calls went to emails and gradually turned nasty to the point that I stopped responding. Until I sent him the check and then it stopped completely.
What bothers me most about this is during that time that I owed him the cash and the last 8 years. I have known this person we got to know each other very well…when he received a DUI, I was his wheels for a while driving him about every where I could. He lives close to 12 miles round trip for me.
I invited him to dinner with my family, once to twice a week, mostly weekends and holidays and even picked him up so that I could help him save on the taxi one way…I can safely say that was at least 400 times. I cooked private dinner parties up at his house, and helped him in many ways with out hesitation, over the years..IMO I could have not offered this person more of myself than I did. I figured that’s what friendship was all about.
However I can’t get over that $500 was the deal breaker on a 8 year friendship. Maybe that friendship wasn't as deep as I was led to believe? who knows?
Thanks for listening I guess the thing about, do not borrow money from friends unless you want to ruin it is true in this case.
