It's been a long time, but I sure wasn't lonely when I was single and I'm sure not miserable when I'm married.
I 2nd that :cheers:
Single vs. Married??
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I 2nd that :cheers:
RTexasF
Pay Attention Boy...
Sounds like he could use a little optimism!
Ronkh
Wax Waster
hhmmmm
Wife just told me she lost her wedding band last night.
Does that mean I'm free ?!?!?!?!?!
prolly not
Wife just told me she lost her wedding band last night.
Does that mean I'm free ?!?!?!?!?!
prolly not
norahcrv
I wish . . .
I have been married to the same woman for 55 years.
Can Anyone on this forum beat that.
Congratulations to all of those who have hung in there!!! :cheers: :bigups :bow
Our marriage only lasted 9648 days
Maybe a hint that she wants something with a little more bling?
Jngrbrdman
New member
^^ That is like my parents. Theirs only lasted like 27 years. Sometimes things change in life and it doesn't work anymore. However, back to what I said earlier, their divorce was 95% selfishness and 5% justified.
It's been a long time, but I sure wasn't lonely when I was single and I'm sure not miserable when I'm married.
I'll add the third. I loved single life and married life ain't that bad either.
I can't beat 55 years of marriage, and CharlesW probably has me beat as well, but I'll log in with 33 years married to the same lady.
Poorboy
Founder Poorboy's World
I have 11 years invested, started rather late, feels like 100 years 
assout:, but enjoyed being single very much :dnaughty , married life is certainly different :huh:
assout:, but enjoyed being single very much :dnaughty , married life is certainly different :huh:
norahcrv
I wish . . .
There are more ways than one to end a marriage . . .
norahcrv
I wish . . .
You have experienced A LOT more than most in those 11 years, Steve . . . :bigups to both of you for hanging in there!I have 11 years invested, started rather late, feels like 100 years
Poorboy
Founder Poorboy's World
Jngrbrdman
New member
True enough. Your way is the only way I plan to end mine. When I say 'till death do us part' I mean it. Besides, she'd kill me if I left her anyway, so I really don't think I'll have much choice.
Well lots of marriages going well on DC and that's good news.
Here's a bachelor's view point. First the stats: single/never married, 43 y/o, professional level type job, have a teenage kid (who I share 50/50 custody with). While Im not opposed to marriage, I have never felt the need to be married (or live with a woman for that matter). While I have had male friends whose bio clock started ringing away at a certain age then they switched to marriage mode, I've never had that feeling.
Like the OP I enjoy traveling and just in general doing my own thing. Coming and going as I please, make plans to go where I want, when I want, with whomever I want. With the exception of my kid and her needs, I suppose you can call me selfish. MAYBE, the marriage bug never stuck because I had the kid and ultimately I think that is the true motivation for marriage (or you just don't like making friends).
I've been in plenty of relationships and had a great time with them. Met some amazing women but still never had the inclination to marry them. It's tough to explain how that thought has never entered my mind but it really doesn't (until a GF brings it up of course). Let me tell you one wild fact I never thought true - some 20 something women are actually into 40 yr old men....who would have thunk it? But it's true. Not that I prefer that age range, they're real fun to hang out with, lots of energy but not much in common with them.
As for the lonely thing. I have never felt "lonely" a day in my life. I think a lot of people confuse being alone and lonely - those are two differnt things. If you feel you're alone then that is of your own doing maybe you're anti-social who knows. I have a great circle of friends, I go out and do things with other people or even by myself where I ended up meeting other people. If you strap yourself to your couch or computer chair and don't do much to socialize then naturally you're going to feel "alone."
Another fun fact to consider if you pick the bachelor lifestyle is that many childhood friends, long time friends etc will end up marrying so that will limit your "hang out" time with those folks but as I said, if you're social you'll have no problems making new friends.
well that's my take on this subject. good luck
Here's a bachelor's view point. First the stats: single/never married, 43 y/o, professional level type job, have a teenage kid (who I share 50/50 custody with). While Im not opposed to marriage, I have never felt the need to be married (or live with a woman for that matter). While I have had male friends whose bio clock started ringing away at a certain age then they switched to marriage mode, I've never had that feeling.
Like the OP I enjoy traveling and just in general doing my own thing. Coming and going as I please, make plans to go where I want, when I want, with whomever I want. With the exception of my kid and her needs, I suppose you can call me selfish. MAYBE, the marriage bug never stuck because I had the kid and ultimately I think that is the true motivation for marriage (or you just don't like making friends).
I've been in plenty of relationships and had a great time with them. Met some amazing women but still never had the inclination to marry them. It's tough to explain how that thought has never entered my mind but it really doesn't (until a GF brings it up of course). Let me tell you one wild fact I never thought true - some 20 something women are actually into 40 yr old men....who would have thunk it? But it's true. Not that I prefer that age range, they're real fun to hang out with, lots of energy but not much in common with them.
As for the lonely thing. I have never felt "lonely" a day in my life. I think a lot of people confuse being alone and lonely - those are two differnt things. If you feel you're alone then that is of your own doing maybe you're anti-social who knows. I have a great circle of friends, I go out and do things with other people or even by myself where I ended up meeting other people. If you strap yourself to your couch or computer chair and don't do much to socialize then naturally you're going to feel "alone."
Another fun fact to consider if you pick the bachelor lifestyle is that many childhood friends, long time friends etc will end up marrying so that will limit your "hang out" time with those folks but as I said, if you're social you'll have no problems making new friends.
well that's my take on this subject. good luck
It's only been a little over 48 years so I can't say for sure yet how things are going to work out.
So far, it's been a great ride.
They tell me it can get tougher after the honeymoon is over so I guess I'll just have to wait and see.
GearHead_1
Long Time Member
25 years in September for me and the Mrs. I'm one of those guys that can say we've never even had a fight. Heck I haven't even spoken to her in the past 24 1/2 years. Just kidding. I truly married over my head, she on the other hand didn't do quite as well. I really got the best of the best not only as a wife but as a mother to my children.
Just kidding. I truly married over my head, she on the other hand didn't do quite as well. I really got the best of the best not only as a wife but as a mother to my children. 
Reddwarf
New member
I'd rather be drunk/single.
You mean you aren't?
Sheila@detailcity
My husband is always right!
Marriage is wonderful! But it's very hard if we are not willing to die to self sometimes ....I could not imagine being without Troy
He's a gift from God.
He's a gift from God.
GearHead_1
Long Time Member
Sheila, tell me to what you are referring. As in giving ones self to spouse like as to Christ?
RTexasF
Pay Attention Boy...
I wasn't going to discuss this initially but I have been married four times. In between (and after) those there have been enough live ins....well, I've forgotten most of their names. Been around a bit? Yeah, pretty much.
The thing is to find a mate that is your friend! After all the crap I have been through...AND CAUSED, I came across a gal ten years ago who is my friend and lover. Obviously Charles discovered this secret decades ago......so I'm a little slow.
We have lived together for ten years and have no intention of tying the knot to satisfy neighbors, relatives, or any one else. A piece of paper will make us correct? NAH!
What keeps us together? Respect for your partner and friendship! God knows it took me long enough to find her. Being happy to please the other party MORE than yourself is the secret.
End of confession>>>>>>>>>>>>>
The thing is to find a mate that is your friend! After all the crap I have been through...AND CAUSED, I came across a gal ten years ago who is my friend and lover. Obviously Charles discovered this secret decades ago......so I'm a little slow.
We have lived together for ten years and have no intention of tying the knot to satisfy neighbors, relatives, or any one else. A piece of paper will make us correct? NAH!
What keeps us together? Respect for your partner and friendship! God knows it took me long enough to find her. Being happy to please the other party MORE than yourself is the secret.
End of confession>>>>>>>>>>>>>
rabbi
The Whaler Loves Detail City
25 years in September for me and the Mrs. I'm one of those guys that can say we've never even had a fight. Heck I haven't even spoken to her in the past 24 1/2 years.
I too am in the same category.We are lucky men Gear!:bigups:bow:yay:rockon
:bigups:yay:bow:rockon.assout: