How far of a drive is to and from work? Where will the car be parked? Any factories around?
For a daily driver I would wax it every 2-4 months. I like keeping a fresh coat on anyway. You will probably get 100 answers to this question though.
Don't go through a car wash that touches your paint. And most touchless washes use harsher chemicals to strip dirt without a brush so it will wear the wax away faster as well.
^^ I agree with that advice. You really need to ask the paint shop how long they would suggest you wait before you wax it. They would know best based on the process and type of paint they used. Typically they tell you 30 to 90 days, but that is really up to them. The warranty on their work is going to be partially based on what you do to the paint in that time frame. If it is going to peel off or bubble up then it would be best that they don't have you waxing it to blame it on. Get the word from them and follow it.
For a detailing regiment I would say it is based on what type of product you use. If you are just going to wax it then you should do it every 6 weeks. If you use a sealant then you can usually go two or three months between coats. It just depends on the products you use.
I would always suggest hand washing the car as opposed to using any type of high pressure or 'touchless' type wash. You are in total control of your products and process if you do it yourself. Just remember that washing and drying your car improperly is one of the main causes of swirls on the paint. Always use a clean wash mitt and a high quality drying towel such as a waffle weave microfiber. I would recommend using a double bucket method where you rinse your mitt before you go in for more suds. That way your wash water will stay cleaner and have less grit. I would definitely suggest getting a bucket with a grit guard that helps keep what grit will be in the wash water at the bottom.
The only thing I disagree with is asking the paint shop. I had a shop tell me to wax the same day. I would trust the manufacturers word over the guy who painted it...but that is just me.