Getting Through Break-Ups

Brandon1 said:
Me and my girl broke up after 3.5years this summer, now I party hardy, and hang out with a different girl every weekend.



Now i'm dating one that is much much nicer and loves everything I do. It's great.



I know it seems hard now, but it gets much better. You can come ride my ATV if you want, it helped me allot.
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I'm def. holding you to that!:getdown
 
i am going to skip reading 2 pages but by a TEXT MESSAGE? I dont want to drag you back onto the subject.... but she couldve been a heck of a lot more mature. Im in high school and people get beet up and basically shunned for doing that. I feel VERY bad for you!



My advise is get a friend and go buy 2 racketball rackets and a racketball and go at it! That ALWAYS blows off steam for me. It takes strength (and this is fun to just NAIL the ball) and also your brain power to figure out the best possible place to hit it and how hard (would get your mind off her).



If you ever need a guy to scream at... im willing to take that.



Peice
 
rydawg said:
Sorry to hear about the break up. It does and will get better... trust me!



When I was in my 20's I was more serious about relationships and hanging on to one. But as soon as I hit my late 20's and early 30's I found myself wanting to be single and dating 21 year old girls and having fun with a different girl every week. I am now 34 and now have a girlfriend and a kid and my party is now over.



I really miss the single days. Enjoy it while you can brother. This world is filled with beautiful single women.



I would do anything to be single and have freedom again. I'll be back in 17 years. I hope they have some really neat creative dating then.:chuckle:
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You sound like my dad, he was 51 or 2 when he married my mom, and before that he couldve def. be considered a "player". People didnt beleive my dad was getting married when they heard.
 
stiff i know this is two days late, but it's hard man. the only thing is what people say, take your mind off things and move on. Your lifestyle probably has to change, since things won't seem ordinary to you anymore. Be optimistic!
 
The same situation just happened to me about 4 months ago and I am now just about completely over her. There were times that I felt like I could've died but the very next day I felt great and so forth. But my ex and I were dating for two years also and she broke up with me over the phone. Kinda sucks but that just shows how mature she was. Mind you I am 21 and she was 23 so she was older and yet she was the imature one. We to had issues but I am enjoying being able to goto the bars, clubs, malls ect and be able to look and talk to women.



Don't rush into anything relationship any time soon. I almost got into one and I walked away because I realized that it wasn't something I was ready for did I want at that moment. Do things that you enjoy to do things that you didn't do because of the relationship. Like right now I am gonna get my Cobra out of storage because the sun is out and the streets are dry. I get to spend money on myself and smile and feel great because I don't have to worry about anything. Things will get better as time goes on and there is someone who is 10x better than the previous!

Keep strong my friend!
 
Monte78Carlo2k1 said:
The same situation just happened to me about 4 months ago and I am now just about completely over her. There were times that I felt like I could've died but the very next day I felt great and so forth. But my ex and I were dating for two years also and she broke up with me over the phone. Kinda sucks but that just shows how mature she was. Mind you I am 21 and she was 23 so she was older and yet she was the imature one. We to had issues but I am enjoying being able to goto the bars, clubs, malls ect and be able to look and talk to women.



Don't rush into anything relationship any time soon. I almost got into one and I walked away because I realized that it wasn't something I was ready for did I want at that moment. Do things that you enjoy to do things that you didn't do because of the relationship. Like right now I am gonna get my Cobra out of storage because the sun is out and the streets are dry. I get to spend money on myself and smile and feel great because I don't have to worry about anything. Things will get better as time goes on and there is someone who is 10x better than the previous!

Keep strong my friend!
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Just thought i'd update the ones who cared.



It's been 3 months now. And I believe I am mostly over her. I still get times at night where I think of her. I been stickin busy with work and getting my car build together.



But as I read this thread again; I really appreciate what everyone has said and told me. It means the world to me because honestly, I have no one else to go to...



But thanks again guys! Have a great '08 year. Everyone be safe and live life to the fullest!:woohoo:
 
stiffdogg06 said:
Just thought i'd update the ones who cared.



It's been 3 months now. And I believe I am mostly over her. I still get times at night where I think of her. I been stickin busy with work and getting my car build together.



But as I read this thread again; I really appreciate what everyone has said and told me. It means the world to me because honestly, I have no one else to go to...



But thanks again guys! Have a great '08 year. Everyone be safe and live life to the fullest!:woohoo:
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I am glad to see things are working out. It does take time for sure. But it is not like you have not been busy though do nothing. With you selling your Souvie for about two months and now the Makita, I know that you were busy answering the messages from that. :p



Have you been going out on dates? Don't fall in the trap of getting too busy for fun. You only live once. :D
 
howareb said:
I am glad to see things are working out. It does take time for sure. But it is not like you have not been busy though do nothing. With you selling your Souvie for about two months and now the Makita, I know that you were busy answering the messages from that. :p



Have you been going out on dates? Don't fall in the trap of getting too busy for fun. You only live once. :D
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Been going on a few dates. Nothing to serious. Trying to enjoy my life as much as I can.



I actually took the suggestion of baseballlover and got a membership at a local health center. I have been working out more. Playing racquetball. It's soo nice to be able to do what i want when I want.



:bigups
 
stiffdogg06 said:
got a membership at a local health center. I have been working out more. Playing racquetball. It's soo nice to be able to do what i want when I want.

:bigups
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And you know while your there, their are a lot of nice things to look at too and I am not talking about flat screen tv's...:wow:



I know more people that hook up/meet at gyms...:hifive:

Best of luck, sounds like your already on the good track.
 
stiffdogg06- Glad to hear you're not down in the dumps :xyxthumbs Also glad to hear you've been on a few not-too-serious dates :D
 
stiffdogg06 said:
I actually took the suggestion of baseballlover and got a membership at a local health center. I have been working out more. Playing racquetball. It's soo nice to be able to do what i want when I want.

:bigups
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Yea, working out/playing a sport is a my favorite thing to do when I'm in a bad mood, takes my mind off of whatever and takes away any energy that I have to be angry. And yea, I broke up with my gf about a year ago and the freedom is awesome. No obligations, whatsoever! But I just started dating someone else about 2 weeks ago, hopefully she will continue to respect my hobbies (working out/detailing/drumming).
 
azenthusiast said:
Honestly, my best advice is enjoy being a bachelor for a few months and then find a hotter one. :)
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thanks guys. Yeah I am happy. I hanging out with the people i accidentally avoided when dating her. It's nice now. And some of the things I found out after we broke up killed it for good.



I miss her, but i can honestly say i don't love her anymore for the things that were done behind my back.
 
The advice you have received is excellent. However, it's easy to make suggestions when it's not your heart on the chopping block. I have something for you. It comes in the form of a song. Wait, wait don't freak out. It's not some silly romantic thing. In fact, it's not really a song at all. Don't pay attention to the video but listen carefully to the words. There is some very deep info contained here. I hope you enjoy it. Those of us here who have been around for a while will remember this classic. The main reason I'm offering this to you is because there is a phrase in this song that speaks to your problem and it is this "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours". It usually takes young people many, many years to learn this lesson and by the time they finally learn it, they have scarred forever the hearts of those closest to them.



YouTube - Everybody is free Music Video (sunscreen)



Patrick
 
I for one would like to commend you. When faced with undeniable heartache and sorrow you were able to be man enough and ask for help. And to ask for the help of total strangers does take a lot. I know you said this forum is like family but your problem was a very personal one. So to open up and ask for some guidance was a big step to take in your healing process. It looks to me that you have a good outlook on everything and that you will be back in the saddle in no time.

Five years from now when you run into her unexpectedly you will realize how you keep on maturing for the better and she keeps on staying the same. She will realize her mistake but by that time she will already know you are too good for her. You will be able to see the whole process take place in her eyes. And with that my friend you will have your reward. ;)
 
miahman98 said:
I for one would like to commend you. When faced with undeniable heartache and sorrow you were able to be man enough and ask for help. And to ask for the help of total strangers does take a lot. I know you said this forum is like family but your problem was a very personal one. So to open up and ask for some guidance was a big step to take in your healing process. It looks to me that you have a good outlook on everything and that you will be back in the saddle in no time.

Five years from now when you run into her unexpectedly you will realize how you keep on maturing for the better and she keeps on staying the same. She will realize her mistake but by that time she will already know you are too good for her. You will be able to see the whole process take place in her eyes. And with that my friend you will have your reward. ;)
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Thanks man! I really appreciate it. I just wish I had people like you and others on here to talk to. I really don't have any one else to vent too besides myself or paper.



This is was my first long romantic relationship... So I need help to get through it. I didn't want to go into depression and drag my life down the shitter. So I am always looking for help to get over a relationship faster.



But I have made a list of all the things I didn't like about her to help me. It has helped. But I still need that person here with me to help me, but I don't have that. My family thinks it just another girl. Well, if they knew what we've been through. It would be different..
 
Glad to hear the advice you have recieved from everyone on th board has helped you. I too am in the same point as you are: working out/lifting weights, enjoying the simple things in life. Was doing some casual dating met some cool girls and met a absolutely crazy/moving to quickly girls. About to start dating a girl seriously here in a bit eh the 23 year old didn't work out for me so maybe the 24 year old one will work out:D .

Over all it's good to see that everything is going good and your happy and content.
 
themightytimmah said:
Just broke up this weekend, so now I'm in the same boat. Plan on hitting the gym everyday and picking up some new threads - I cant wait to see her jealous.
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Sorry to hear that man!



I know exactly how you feel. I lift EVERY single day besides the weekends. Need rest;).



But I have been focused on getting my motor built for 300WHP this summer! Like everyone else, stay busy. I thought that was just talk, but damn does it help man.



Good Luck with it all! And I'm sure you'll be fine big man!!!:xyxthumbs



If you need anything, you can IM me since I'm sort of in the same boat right now..



Stiffdogg06 = AIM



What was hard for me is that she lives literally, 20 houses away. Turn the corner and drive 1/4 mile and her house is right there... So that is hard to deal with sometimes.
 
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