Getting Through Break-Ups

tdekany said:
The right relationship is the easiest thing you will ever do. It takes no work what so ever.



It took me 39 years to find her, and we just celebrated our 5th anniversary.!!!!!!



So be greatful, that the universe got you out of this one this early.



Your next relationship will feel much better.



I'll give you one advise: I don't care at what stage in the relationship it happens, if you know that you are not being treated well, like this past one, move on. That person is not the right one for you.



Your "soulmate" if and when you find her, can't treat you any other way but NICE



m2c



Hang in there, time does heal emotional wounds like it was said earlier.



You will be fine.
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Yes and in the same theme as tdekany it took me 34 years, and I ended up marrying my first girlfriend from age 8 (puppylove). So life has a way of throwing curveballs at you.





Sorry to hear about this DOGG!!!

In the end if she could not tell you face to face then I question, how much she was feeling you. I know, easier said than done, but do what Scottwax said and get out and get on.
 
Sucks to hear that man, last time I got dumped, I went to the driving range for 3 hours and then went out drinking with my buddies, cause she wasn't around to nag me about it. Try to keep a positive outlook and enjoy your new freedom.
 
themightytimmah said:
Sucks to hear that man, last time I got dumped, I went to the driving range for 3 hours and then went out drinking with my buddies, cause she wasn't around to nag me about it. Try to keep a positive outlook and enjoy your new freedom.
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I def. will be going to the driving range. :D



It's already getting easier to get over her... So its getting better. :bounce
 
Hi stiffdogg06,



Enjoy your freedom! You are a free man, that's a good thing.

After I broke up with my girl a few years back, I rediscovered my love for basketball and I have been playing every week possible. I love the game! :getdown

As suggested by other friends, have a new hobby or do something you like. I have casually dated a few girls just to get to know and understand them. I ended having a few more good female friends! :lol

Right now, my current girl and I are having a time-out period. She says that something is changing between us and it can't be fixed. I just told her that if she thinks that way, that will be the result. I continued, saying that she didn't even allow us to discuss and find a solution to this 'problem'. Either way, during this time-out I am free to do whatever I want especially detailing, which I feel something she doesn't like me doing because it 'takes' me away from her. :doh



Have fun!
 
Sorry to hear about the break up. It does and will get better... trust me!



When I was in my 20's I was more serious about relationships and hanging on to one. But as soon as I hit my late 20's and early 30's I found myself wanting to be single and dating 21 year old girls and having fun with a different girl every week. I am now 34 and now have a girlfriend and a kid and my party is now over.



I really miss the single days. Enjoy it while you can brother. This world is filled with beautiful single women.



I would do anything to be single and have freedom again. I'll be back in 17 years. I hope they have some really neat creative dating then.:chuckle:
 
rydawg said:
Sorry to hear about the break up. It does and will get better... trust me!



When I was in my 20's I was more serious about relationships and hanging on to one. But as soon as I hit my late 20's and early 30's I found myself wanting to be single and dating 21 year old girls and having fun with a different girl every week. I am now 34 and now have a girlfriend and a kid and my party is now over.



I really miss the single days. Enjoy it while you can brother. This world is filled with beautiful single women.



I would do anything to be single and have freedom again. I'll be back in 17 years. I hope they have some really neat creative dating then.:chuckle:
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Thanks Ryan! Yeah, I am trying to enjoy. I haven't been depressed barely at all today. Other than the few hours after I found out she didn't want to be with me. It's been actually kind of nice. No worrying about what I am doing or if she doing something behind my back.



:)



- Andrew
 
rydawg said:
The holidays is always tough for girls. Every serious relationship that ended with me was Nov. or Dec. They don't deal with holidays very well.
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Yeah. I'm only 19 soon to be 20. So I got my whole life to live. I don't have the time or patience to wait on a girl that can't get her feelings straight.



Is it wrong to be excited to be single now?:dance
 
Most everything has been said already and I do certainly agree that you will be much better off man. You may go through periods of "funk" but keep yourself busy with everything and anything that you enjoy.

I feel she did you a favor. No one deserves to be with anyone that can break up a serious relationship via text message... she needs to grow up and you deserve much better!



Good luck stiffdogg! :woot2:
 
twitch said:
Most everything has been said already and I do certainly agree that you will be much better off man. You may go through periods of "funk" but keep yourself busy with everything and anything that you enjoy.

I feel she did you a favor. No one deserves to be with anyone that can break up a serious relationship via text message... she needs to grow up and you deserve much better!



Good luck stiffdogg! :woot2:
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Thanks man! I appreciate everyones wise words.



God Bless Everyone!



- Andrew
 
stiffdogg06 said:
Yeah. I'm only 19 soon to be 20. So I got my whole life to live. I don't have the time or patience to wait on a girl that can't get her feelings straight.



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Oh man you are still young.



One regret that I do have, is when I was your age I always had serious relationships till I was 28. Once I hit 28, I then started partying heavy and dating lots of girls. Damn I could of had even more fun when I was young if only I was single.



:bow You lucky bastad
 
rydawg said:
Oh man you are still young.



One regret that I do have, is when I was your age I always had serious relationships till I was 28. Once I hit 28, I then started partying heavy and dating lots of girls. Damn I could of had even more fun when I was young if only I was single.



:bow You lucky bastad
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Yeah :) It was just my first serious relationship. And with the way it ended, it was hard. But it def. has gotten better over the past 12 hrs.:getdown
 
stiffdogg06 said:
Yeah. I'm only 19 soon to be 20. So I got my whole life to live.
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Dude, at 19 or 20, it would be wrong to be that dedicated to a woman, there are times in your life to worry about that, but 19 is not the age to worry about settling down.



I remember being heartbroken over a girl, thinking that's she's the best thing ever in my early 20's. 12 years later I marry to a beautiful woman, we now have 2 kids and I thank God that the old girlfriend dumped me. In your situation, things always seem better than they really were. Trust me, at 19 and single, you shouldn't have to work that hard at making things right.



Finally, the story I always like to remember is one Billy Joel told, about how his girlfriend broke up with him and he was crushed, to the point of thinking about suicide. Just totally heartbroken...........of course, years later he married one of the most beautiful women in the worldl, Christie Brinkley. I will bet he got the better end of that trade...I'm sure you will too!..:bigups
 
Hit me up on AIM man. First serious relationship is a tough one to get over, but all I can say is trust me and everyone else here when we say it's always for the best.
 
Just to add more support from your 40k family :) I'll relate my experiences.

My first serious relationship ended in high school and put me in the same funk. She left me for my best friend that started seeing her behind my back. Being depressed over an old relationship does nothing but ruin your attitude. I was intentionally single for two years, had some fun, and just made some great [female] friends in college.



I then became a work-a-holic and dedicated the large majority of my time to school and my career. It is surprising how much time and money you have when not attached! I had short and meaningless relationships from time to time, but one friend once referred to me as his "perpetually single friend."



Eight years later, one of those great college friends is now my [soon to be] fiancee. Just that little time between us was all we needed and if we had tried to make anything serious when we were young and stupid I am certain it would have failed. It is just like someone else has already said... a great relationship takes no effort.



Have fun and enjoy your youth! :2thumbs:



rydawg... did I hear you right? You plan on returning to dating in 17 years? :grinno:
 
stiffdogg06 said:
Yeah :) It was just my first serious relationship. And with the way it ended, it was hard. But it def. has gotten better over the past 12 hrs.:getdown
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Took me a couple weeks to get over my first long term relationship, especially because we worked together and so did the guy she started dating (basically, she wanted someone to marry her and get her out of her parent's house and I wasn't ready for that), so I had to switch to graveyard so I wouldn't have to see them together. After a few weeks though, I realized our relationship really hadn't been that great for the last couple months and knew I was better off without her. My mood really improved and I think it pi$$ed her off.



Long story short, I saw her about 6 years later. She had gained about 60 pounds and was already divorced.
 
Scottwax said:
Took me a couple weeks to get over my first long term relationship, especially because we worked together and so did the guy she started dating (basically, she wanted someone to marry her and get her out of her parent's house and I wasn't ready for that), so I had to switch to graveyard so I wouldn't have to see them together. After a few weeks though, I realized our relationship really hadn't been that great for the last couple months and knew I was better off without her. My mood really improved and I think it pi$$ed her off.



Long story short, I saw her about 6 years later. She had gained about 60 pounds and was already divorced.
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That probably made ya LOL a little.
 
Me and my girl broke up after 3.5years this summer, now I party hardy, and hang out with a different girl every weekend.



Now i'm dating one that is much much nicer and loves everything I do. It's great.



I know it seems hard now, but it gets much better. You can come ride my ATV if you want, it helped me allot.
 
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