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Scottwax

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Would you agree with this statement about how your life will turn out:



10% is what happens to you

90% is how you respond.
 
I think I definately agree with that. Life is hard, many terrible and unthinkable things happen in people's lives and I think thats pretty universal.
 
I totally agree. Everything is what you make of it. You can get pissed off and overreact about the slightest things, or you can just let them slide like they never happened.

How do you think I can live with myself as an Autopian with two big dents in his car?
 
I'd agree with that as well. Everyone deals with some level adversity in their life...it is how we respond to that adversity that defines us as a person.
 
I agree with the "life it what you make it", but i find that the equation that you're presenting neglects the part about "making things happen" in your life rather than spending 90% of your time reacting to things that happen to you ?



Bob
 
Silverbelle04- Had he said "90% Reaction" rather than "90% Response" it *would* be awfully passive. I read it as meaning

"90% what you do with the hand you've been dealt", which can include being proactive about it.



Don't mean to make this a semantics lecture, but IMO the difference here sorta makes all the difference :D Everybody gets *some* starting point, every minute of the day; it's all in what we do about it.



Heh heh, I've had the difference between "respond" (active thought) and "react" (unthinking kneejerk) drilled into me by various people, one's good for some things, the other for others...
 
I'm not sure I would go as high as 10/90 but I agree with the sentiment.



How many of us know someone who's 'glass is always half empty' the kind of person who is discontented whatever happens in their life?



How many of us know someone else, who is not famous, beautiful, powerful or rich, but who seems to smile most of the time and who's family life is happy and contented?
 
SilverBelle04 said:
I agree with the "life it what you make it", but i find that the equation that you're presenting neglects the part about "making things happen" in your life rather than spending 90% of your time reacting to things that happen to you ?



Bob
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Maybe a better choice of words would be how you deal with what happens in your life. You can make things happen all you want but when some serious adversity strikes, it throws your plans all out of whack. How you deal with it will determine how quickly or if ever you get back on track.



Does that make more sense?
 
Its the beauty that seperates humans from animals.....We have the ability to design destiny.

William James..."The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life, by altering his attitude."

I would say the 10/90 rule applies at birth, some people pass away at the same ratio, its up to you to "concentrate" that ration to a 50/50. I would like to think im responsible for more than 10% of my lifes actions.....
 
Scott - i agree for the most part with the idea, however, the equation as you presented it straight up makes me think in terms of what a.k.a. Patrick is saying.



BTW... i think that it's pretty hard to be very philosophical about life, attitudes, approaches, etc ......and communicate those sentiments effectively ...in a few words.....Bob
 
White95Max said:
I totally agree. Everything is what you make of it. You can get pissed off and overreact about the slightest things, or you can just let them slide like they never happened.

How do you think I can live with myself as an Autopian with two big dents in his car?
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Another option is to turn negative events into something positive. I missed a promotion once that was given to someone much less qualified. I got upset for a while, but eventually decided I wasn't going to spend the rest of my career mad about it. I put in for a transfer and moved 300 miles away. Before I left my boss confided to me that he had planned to move me into another higher paying position at a later date and he literally begged me to stay (I was doing a lot of things no one else knew how to do). I told him he had his chance and I felt he blew it. After I moved I wound up getting two very good promotions in a short period of time. Now I have a much better position at a much better salary and I live in an area I like 10 times more. I now make more money that my old boss does. I had a buddy of mine that still works there thank him for not promoting me.



When life gives you lemons, make some lemonade.
 
SilverBelle04 said:
... i think that it's pretty hard to be very philosophical about life ......and communicate those sentiments effectively ...in a few words.....
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Yeah, the difficulty in communicating this stuff, let alone succinctly, often has me thinking that we argue the same point of view to each other :D and I'd say this thread is a good example of that.



I *think* we're all saying that we're not just passive victims or beneficiaries of whatever life hands us, or at least we don't *have* to be.
 
One event that really changed my life was not getting a management job at Friday's...because (at least at that time) they wouldn't hire anyone who'd been a Denny's manager. Instead of sticking it out at Denny's a being miserable, I made the push to persue my detailing hobby as a profession.



If I got the job at Fridays, I would probably be making decent money but I doubt I would be as happy as I am detailing.
 
There are two types of people in the world:



1) Those that lets things happen

2) Those who make things happen



while that is an over simplification it is the truth....I am a student of Tony Robbins (yes I have walked on fire, a few times) and i could go on for days on this subject.



It all comes down to decsions, what do you want, what makes you happy, what do you need and what are will to do and not to do to make it happen.
 
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