Buyers Remorse Help!!!!!!!

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TDMAN

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I just celebrated my 39th Bday on Tuesday. To treat myself, I decided to buy some products. First of I hit PAC and got their free shampoo, which led to another small purchase. Today, I went back and bought the Detail City Special (Klasse &UPP) cuz I heard so much about it. Then I bought a PC kit. I already own a ton o stuff (Klasse red, Cyclo Orbital, 1 gallon of Paint Diamondcoat Paint seal etc.) and I really don't have the business to back it all up. My wife is on me for "wasting my money" and I don't think it is a waste. But, now I have 2 fine orbitals, and top notch products. I guess I just need some positive feed back for indulging myself. :brick :wall :beat
 
1. Be sure to point out that the shampoo was free.

2. Show her the Detail City discount that you received.

3. Detail her car for her.

4. Buy her some flowers and take her out to eat with "the money you saved" by buying package deals with free shipping. Something you couldn't have afforded to do if you hadn't made those purchases.

5. Buy her some jewelry.

If that doesn't work, you are SOL. :)

Charles
 
She's giving you grief for that???

Good thing I'm single...with all the $$$ I've spent (and I have only 1 car), if I was married, I'd have been shot by now.
 
What im trying to do slowly is place a rather small order every few weeks. That way I can say honey, I only spent 30 dollars today which doesnt seem a lot. Although shipping would add up more but with the free offers Dwayne is giving I come out even (or ahead).
 
With those purchases you will be able to pay them off in 3 or 4 details. They were an investment in that jewlery that your wife wants. :naughty That's what I tell my wife, anyway.
 
i get that feeling all the time... when it does get real bad i just think of what my grandmother told me over and over.... AH YES, THIS TO SHALL PASS!!!
 
waste??

Waste is defined by:

-a car going without a wash nor polish in over a month.
-selling a car less than $400-500 because you didn't want to invest the time (and product)

Maybe you can detail a couple of your buddies cars for a few bucks(of course I'm exaggerating!) and make up the difference.:dunno

Before I rant on....did you say it's your BIRTHDAY :band

Well for your wife's sake tell her you love her more than the product...and I like CharlesW said on the "SAVINGS" it worked for me...:lol

Happy birthday TDMAN!

Daniel
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Tools are never a waste . Just detail your wifes car and take her out to eat and everything will be fine. If she continues to whine about it sell her and buy more stuff .:bigups
 
If you're buyin' stuff & your family is going without, then you deserve a good flogging. But if you're doing this with discretionary income or $$$ you received for your B-day, what's the problem??

Perhaps she'd rather you spend your money at a casino or on the ponies. Maybe oweing some bucks to a loanshark is OK 'cause you've got a gambling problem and it's more attractive to see you with a broken leg or missing a few teeth. A cocaine habit is very attractive, so is being a drunk.

Perhaps you should detail the bathtub & shower just to show her how useful these products & tools are.

Perhaps I'm a bit too much of a tit-for-tat kind of guy but does your wife spend $$$ on anything that you consider wasteful or useless?

Maybe some little glass grickles that are just dust collectors & they all fall over whenever you bump into the table. Perhaps every square foot of wall space has to have some piece of fake county crap nailed up; I know, I've spackled 100's of nail holes .... 100's. I turned the page on that one.

That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger but I think there needs to be some improvement in communication.
 
NYV6Coupe said:
Perhaps I'm a bit too much of a tit-for-tat kind of guy but does your wife spend $$$ on anything that you consider wasteful or useless?

Maybe some little glass grickles that are just dust collectors & they all fall over whenever you bump into the table. Perhaps every square foot of wall space has to have some piece of fake county crap nailed up; I know, I've spackled 100's of nail holes .... 100's. I turned the page on that one.
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Are you married to my wife? :lmfao

TDMAN happy B-Day, and I know the feeling.
 
CharlesW said:
1. Be sure to point out that the shampoo was free.

2. Show her the Detail City discount that you received.

3. Detail her car for her.

4. Buy her some flowers and take her out to eat with "the money you saved" by buying package deals with free shipping. Something you couldn't have afforded to do if you hadn't made those purchases.

5. Buy her some jewelry.

If that doesn't work, you are SOL. :)

Charles
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asolutely! I did those things. I still haven't told her.
 
Thanks for the feedback. It's Saturday and I'm just getting home from taking her to dinner AND buying her a "decorative plate" at Pier One :angel . On top of that I watched our daughter all day (which is not a chore; healthy kids are gifts from God), so I am doing better. The weather here has been too cold and snowy to detail (Denver), so I have been bummin' pretty hard. But the thing that I forget is that I got about 10-15 people to work with, when they decide to do it. That right there should pay for the stuff. Plus, I work for my bro, who is an electrical contractor. He said he would split the cost of chemicals if i would do 3 of his cars for free for a year. I've already done his truck twice and want to work on it some more. He also has about 10 service vans and a couple of other vehicles. I guess I was just feeling a little overwhelmed. I love to detail cars, and I love to buy and try new products and combos. Yes, feelin' much better :dcrules Thanks all of you.
 
cwcad said:
i get that feeling all the time... when it does get real bad i just think of what my grandmother told me over and over.... AH YES, THIS TO SHALL PASS!!!
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You are absolutely right!!
 
NYV6Coupe said:
If you're buyin' stuff & your family is going without, then you deserve a good flogging. But if you're doing this with discretionary income or $$$ you received for your B-day, what's the problem??

Perhaps she'd rather you spend your money at a casino or on the ponies. Maybe oweing some bucks to a loanshark is OK 'cause you've got a gambling problem and it's more attractive to see you with a broken leg or missing a few teeth. A cocaine habit is very attractive, so is being a drunk.

Perhaps you should detail the bathtub & shower just to show her how useful these products & tools are.

Perhaps I'm a bit too much of a tit-for-tat kind of guy but does your wife spend $$$ on anything that you consider wasteful or useless?

Maybe some little glass grickles that are just dust collectors & they all fall over whenever you bump into the table. Perhaps every square foot of wall space has to have some piece of fake county crap nailed up; I know, I've spackled 100's of nail holes .... 100's. I turned the page on that one.

That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger but I think there needs to be some improvement in communication.
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Been working on the communication thing for about 2 years. When I got hurt, it was very, very hard on our relationship. She has a hard time with communication, and I am very chatty, so it was tough. As long as we are together, we will be able to work on the problems. Thanks for the input and your insight. You are very perceptive. Also, you really hit home about the cocaine habit. I've been sober and clean in a 12 step program for about 8 years and my wife for 16. Sometimes I just need to remember how good I really do have it.
 
take it a day at a time, tdman .... a day at a time.

Communication, honesty, trust, and respect are just some of the foundation pieces of an enduring, loving, successful relationship. Sounds like both of you have had a few tussles with your demons so sometimes it requires conscious effort to do the little things and pay attention to the minutia, you know ..... detail your relationship.

One thing I've learned, one rule that I live by in my current (and last) relationship is the more you give, the more you get. It works.

Sorry if I sound "preachy" but I just wanted to share a few thoughts.
 
NYV6Coupe said:
take it a day at a time, tdman .... a day at a time.

Communication, honesty, trust, and respect are just some of the foundation pieces of an enduring, loving, successful relationship. Sounds like both of you have had a few tussles with your demons so sometimes it requires conscious effort to do the little things and pay attention to the minutia, you know ..... detail your relationship.

One thing I've learned, one rule that I live by in my current (and last) relationship is the more you give, the more you get. It works.

Sorry if I sound "preachy" but I just wanted to share a few thoughts.
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No, no, not at all. I am appreciate the pointers and wisdom. I try to stay Honest, Open, and Willing at all times. Nobody has the whole market cornered on anything. :)
 
TDMAN, Congratulations on being clean and sober. Also happy B-Day. My wife doesn't understand my obsession with cleaning our 6 cars, but it makes me feel better and I am not drinking, gambling or running around with wild women, so how bad can it be. Maybe you can get her involved in some part of the detailing so that she can see the fun in it.

Again congrats and happy B-Day.

P.S. I just hide all the stuff I buy
 
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