Hello nosed_b18b and welcome to Autopia. :wavey
To be perfectly honest, what you are asking for is far, far too much for anyone to fully describe here. You could list some of the steps like LouisanaJeeper did, but if you want a total walkthrough of a washing and polishing and waxing procedure, it's really best to read up on it yourself.
There are many variables and personal choices to make when washing and especially the rest of the detailing process. Someone may give you what he/she does, but there is no one definitive "recipe" for detailing your vehicle and there may be many ways to accomplish a process.
The link Greg supplied is great, and I'd also suggest combining that with the Search feature here to help fill in any blanks. There is a ton of info available, with some of the more basic materials covered more in the Archives. Good luck.