Originally Posted by
Liz@Autopia
Thanks Accumulator! One mistake I see him make, and it might be applicable to detailing as well, is to think that just because *some* parts of a job come super easy to you naturally, *all* parts of it should, and then when you bump up against something a little more difficult or that takes a little extra time/effort or requires you to learn a new skill or way of doing things, it can feel like failure just because you don`t see instant perfect results.
A lot of the music stuff has always come as easily to my son as swimming is to a fish. Some people`s brains just "speak" music, and he`s one of them. As he`s advanced though, he naturally takes on more challenging stuff and when it doesn`t come as easily as the "easy" stuff (easy to him being something that would still take me years to learn :)), he takes it really hard and beats himself up about it.
Like it took him two months to learn and perfect a really awesome solo acoustic version of Stairway To Heaven and he was really down on himself that it took that long. I told him that`s a super complicated song and there are people who have been trying to learn it for 20 years that still couldn`t do it as well as he does, but in his mind it should have come as easily as learning some basic three chord Jimmy Buffett song and when it didn`t, it rattled him. Once he worked up the courage to play it in public at a local open mic night and the crowd was blown away, he finally realized that it really was awesome and nobody cared how long it took him to learn it. B)
I think sometimes we have to remind ourselves that even stuff we are really good at can be difficult or require a little something "extra" (skills, knowledge, grit and determination, or sometimes just plain old luck) to get through it, and that`s OK - it doesn`t mean we`re a failure or inadequate.