Alone after almost 5 years

Tripperfx3 · 12-03-08, 11:00

My GF left me yesterday for another guy. She told me she didn't leave me for him, but that she had been unhappy for a long time and that she just finally had the courage to tell me. I know he poured some honey in her ear to get her to do things though. I suspect that she had been seeing him since Monday. This guy was also supposed to be my friend. We both have only known him for 3 weeks, so I highly doubt this "relationship" will last. She truly has messed up her life with this. She got her job through another one of my friends GF's and shes her boss. While I'm totally aware she can't be fired for leaving me her boss is none to happy about this and will probably make working there unbearable for her. She's also lost a lot of good mutual friends because of this.

Also, and this is sort of funny, her Mom is actually furious with her.

Regardless I'm actually doing ok. I'm only 23 years old and have a lot of my life ahead of me. I know this will be hard, but I know i'll get through it. It'd be much easier if I was back in GA with all my friends instead of here in Reno for school, but I'm going back there to visit next month. Sorry for my rant as I know most of you guys don't know me, but felt like I had to get it off my chest.

Detailed Autos · 12-03-08, 12:18

Sorry to hear that man.

craig7022 · 12-03-08, 12:35

You and me both dude - We decided to make the break after nearly 9 years still I have my daughter and the business is going well so she can do one

Sounds cold and heartless i know but she won't be missed - All the best buddy crack and you'll be alright mate

jimmie jam · 12-03-08, 12:41

dude,

i turned 56 on monday and i'm alone. 23 and alone? you have the majic pill on your side - youth. you will be fine, trust me. alone at 23 is not considered a big problem, it's an asset.

Yal · 12-03-08, 01:05

^^^LOL

so true.

jordanrossbell · 12-03-08, 01:07

Ok, another 23 year old like myself, and let me share the thinking that i have had since i broke up with my girlfriend of the past 3 years....

We are young man, college days are the best of your life...i just graduated and would give anything to be a freshman again. The amount of girls are insane, and you are in reno..ive never been but im sure its a triangle pit...haha...but anyway, literally get out and date as much as you can, i dont know if you ever felt the walls closing in on you while you were dating this girl about marriage and such..but if anything this should be a relief. Be glad this happened now and not whenever you finally decided to get married, or even worse have kids. You are now free to move on without any legal or moral obligation, a fresh start my friend, and that is something that everyone needs every once in a while..i know this seems tough, but try to think about that one girl that will really make your head spin and will be as good to you as you are to her, obviously that wasnt the case with this one, so f*** her and thank God for the rest of your life for getting you away from someone that is that downright awful. Good luck buddy..my PMs are on if you would ever like to discuss what i did to get me over my ex-chick..

Tripperfx3 · 12-03-08, 03:20

Thanks for sharing and helping Gents. Actually the girls here an UNR are very attractive! I guess I'm just not used to this. I've never had a girl break up with me. It's normally a mutual kind of thing.

I actually talked to her mom recently (whose on my side believe it or not) and she called me back after talking to my now Ex and the mom specifically asked "Are you involved seriously with this guy?" To which my Ex replied "No, he's just helping me out." This morning she also said, yet again, I did not leave you for him. She's coming over tonight to get her dog and we have to talk about what to do with the apartment, so I'm going to try to get some answers from her. I know I can't force it though.

Also I may be stupid, but if she's not with him and they haven't had sex then I could see a possibility of us getting back together. I doubt this will happen and am more realistic than that, but you never know.

Scottwax · 12-03-08, 04:06

A month from now you will realize how much better off you are. I went through a similar situation when I was younger and it took me about 3 weeks to know it was for the better. She'd been unhappy and I'd been unhappy for a good 3 months prior and who wants to go back to a relationship like that?

dave40co · 12-03-08, 04:13

It is most likely for the better. Women are like buses, one comes along avery 15 minutes! I met my wife after a 7 year relationship ended and we have been married 28 years in May. Yeah, I am old!

jdoria · 12-03-08, 04:24

Quote:

Originally Posted by jimmie jam

dude,

i turned 56 on monday and i'm alone. 23 and alone? you have the majic pill on your side - youth. you will be fine, trust me. alone at 23 is not considered a big problem, it's an asset.

At 53, being single can be an asset also$

Tripperfx3 · 12-03-08, 04:48

Not trying to get religious and spread my belief or anything like that, but I believe that everything happens for a reason and God or whatever higher power you believe in or don't has a plan. IN fact a friend that's been helping me through this has a minster for a mother and told me a quote that I really liked "If you tell God your plans, he'll laugh back."

But that being said I'm sure if we don't end up back together which is more than likely that it is for the better. Again, I'm sorry if I'm being Emo lol

Awsomeshine · 12-03-08, 04:56

Feel for you bud, but I prefer being single.