Cheater's Guide To Coming Clean

DavidB · 10-02-08, 10:58

The most recent issue of BEST LIFE magazine arrived yesterday. I like this magazine. It's on-target with a lot of good issues for men.

In this issue there's a 1/3 page teaser (pg. 90) called "A CHEATER'S GUIDE TO COMING CLEAN", that talks about when you should tell your wife that you've strayed and when you should just keep your mouth shut. They suggest:

WHEN TO HIDE IT
If you have a one night stand and you're sure it won't happen again... KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

WHEN TO TELL HER
If you've been having an on-going sexual affair, then it's simply unfair to let your wife live one life while you live another. TELL HER!

Okay, gents, what say you on this topic? It's a HOT one!

bert31 · 10-02-08, 12:18

Even if it was a one night stand, there is always a risk that the person you strayed with could hold it over your head or somehow get pissed at you and tell your wife for revenge so you probably should confess anyways.

Assuming I get married some day, I couldn't imagine ever cheating on her. If I did, even if it was a one night stand with a woman from a far away town who in no way could figure out how to find me or my wife, I don't think I could live knowing I was hiding it from her. She would probably be able to tell I was always uncomfortable around her and eventually put two and two together. That and during sex with her, they other woman would always be in the back of my mind. Your best bet, keep it in your pocket when you are not with the wife.

Flashtime · 10-02-08, 01:51

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If you have a one night stand and you're sure it won't happen again... KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

Only if you lack a conscience.

bert31 · 10-02-08, 02:23

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Originally Posted by Flashtime

Only if you lack a conscience.

That is what I am thinking, my conscience would drive me nuts.

DavidB · 10-02-08, 02:48

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Originally Posted by Flashtime

Only if you lack a conscience.

According to the magazine article, the only reason you'd tell (about a one night stand) is because you have the need to get rid of a guilty conscience (magazine's words, not mine!), so you put the burden on your wife (ouch!).

"But if you tell her you will leave her with the emotional baggage."

The article goes on to say that your best bet is to end all contact with the other woman... AND DEAL WITH YOUR GUILT ON YOUR OWN... not burden your wife with it.

weekendwarrior · 10-02-08, 04:03

I'd have to confess. But then again, I could never bring myself to do it (cheat).

Tripperfx3 · 10-02-08, 04:37

I had plenty of reasons and opportunities to cheat on my ex and never did (sorta wish I did now that I think of it, but I won't get into that), but I believe that if your thinking about it or if you do it then there's something wrong in your relationship and you need to either figure out what that problem is and if you can't figure out what it is or if you figure out what it is and it's not worth working through than you need to end it with your wife/significant other and then boink whoever you want.

I just couldn't do it while I was in a relationship whether I had feelings for the other woman or just thought she was a hot piece of tail. I'd have to do the respectable thing and let her go first.

RDAVEX7 · 10-02-08, 11:39

I think Ive mentioned this here before but while talking with an old man at a bar in the Seatac (Seattle) airport we watched an obviously married man and a woman he was about to go nail. The old man told me "it doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home" and he was right.

I think I would keep quiet over a one night stand but a long term affair would be hard to keep under wraps and would come out at some point even years later. To many feeling's involved in an affair I guess.

DavidB · 10-03-08, 04:24

I agree. Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!

kaval · 10-03-08, 06:03

Man, I could NOT live with myself for even a one-night stand, let alone a kiss or something. Not right at all. I know I'd feel like sh*t if my girlfriend did that to me.

DaGonz · 10-03-08, 03:51

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Originally Posted by DavidB

I agree. Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!

One can look at the menu... just remember that "appetizers" are not free, and price of the the "main course" is expensive and the "dessert" of dealing with the aftermath can bankrupt you.

backwoods_lex · 10-05-08, 01:48

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Originally Posted by DavidB

WHEN TO HIDE IT
If you have a one night stand and you're sure it won't happen again... KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

That is the advice that I usually give to guys. But most of the guys that I give it to are usually D.B.'s and will screw around again. To each their own I guess.

It still amazes me that some people still have open relationships with each other (or the idiot version of this which is I cheat on you->You cheat on me->I cheat on you->You cheat on me over and over again). I couldn't do it.