So, my girlfriend and I broke up... - Page 5

BigAl3 · 08-29-08, 09:04

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Originally Posted by hXc drummer23

Well its been a while since I posted in here. We ended up getting back together over the summer. On Fathers' Day, she texted me and said she had something to tak about in person. She came over that night and told me a whole bunch of stuff while she was bawling crying. She said that she never stopped liking me, and she didn't know why she broke up with me. So we got back together up until about a month ago. She found someone else again. It didn't upset me though. I thought, "Hey, shes going off to college, it's not that big of a deal anyway." We hadn't talked in about a month up until a few days ago. We started talking about normal stuff. The funny thing is, she still calls me boo, baby, and some other names she had for me when we were dating. I thought she still loved me or something. Come to find out, she still does. This Sunday would've been our 2 years. She keeps bringing that up along with a whole bunch of our memories. To be honest, I don't really want to date her though. She is 2 hours away in college and Im still in highschool. I don't think it would work out too well. Well anyway, I haven't found anyone else yet, or even been close to finding anyone else. I've been avoiding people for some reason. I don't know why. I don't even know how to meet girls anymore. I forgot because we dated for so long.

when she dates someone else that hasn't treated her like you have, she'll even think/miss you even more, and i would just move (you probably already have) as she obviously is missing out. go to the gym and workout to get your mind off things, and seeing the hot girls won't hurt either...

themightytimmah · 08-29-08, 11:02

Man, I finally let it go with my ex-girlfriend and it is like a huge weight off my back. For those of you in the same situation, the point where you don't want revenge you just want to never see them again is a big turning point. I think it just takes time though.

95supra · 09-28-08, 02:14

The ocean is full of fish.. Grab a rod, or better yet throw in a net... Best advice I can give at your age.. sooner or later you would end up wanting someone else since men are not made to be with just one partner.

However when you have "Testdriven" alot of them (Not just sexually, though thats the best part)

You KNOW what to look for in a girl and what to NOT look at\for. :P

Aviator16 · 10-01-08, 07:35

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Originally Posted by hXc drummer23

I don't even know how to meet girls anymore. I forgot because we dated for so long.

Haha same here, a dated a girl all summer, i'm a junior this year so i've got the upcoming prom on my mind, and i don't even know where to start....There is always the new blonde from norway. lol

stiffdogg06 · 10-01-08, 08:56

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Originally Posted by themightytimmah

Man, I finally let it go with my ex-girlfriend and it is like a huge weight off my back. For those of you in the same situation, the point where you don't want revenge you just want to never see them again is a big turning point. I think it just takes time though.

Tim - I agree with you this 100%. I dated a chicka for 2.5yrs. She was 3 years younger than me. When I was a Senior in HS I thought I was going to marry this chick... I broke up with her back in Feb of this year, and at first I tried to get back with her, kept talking to her. That was a big mistake because it becomes harder and harder to move on. I started working out and it helped a lot!

Also, don't be afraid to listen to songs that are about relationships. Honestly I can't sit there and listen to love songs after a break up. I'm more of a guy that thinks of all the BAD things she did to me to make me get over her.

Jon Young - Just Chill
Donnie J - So Over you

Those two songs really helped me keep the bad thoughts of her in my mind. And most guys after a long relationship take 6+ months to completely get over a girl... But this may sound repetitive, but drop her, forget about her, move on. But most importantly GIVE IT TIME. Don't go jumping into a relationship, it will be a bad mistake. You'll compare her to your EX and etc.

JuneBug · 10-06-08, 05:55

OK, dusted the cobwebs off my HS memories and here's what I say: part of the reason relationships are so much fun is the comfort zone built into them. There's no anxious moments asking a girl out or holding a fart in till you take them home (3 month rule ok) but the do get BORING, even sexual ones - if you get a lazy chick that can't try anything new. The main thing after the big break up is don't do anything stupid. Don't go drinkin, smokin weed or trying to pull a Rambo on the dude that took her. The best thing is to let it go, start small, baby steps - talk to some other girls, DON"T bring up your ex - unless they do and then, don't go into details, just say we decided to date other people and leave it at that. Don't try to find a replacement - enjoy the differences other girls have. I can't tell you how happy I was when I finally met a chick hornier than me, course in didn't last but a month, but I could have been a porn star after the daily workouts. OK, get what I'm tellin you? life goes on, now get off your butt and get going!

Aviator16 · 10-06-08, 07:35

ok i've got a quick question on the 3 month rule. I stuck to plan and dated a girl for the 3 months of summer break. Its now been about two months since the break up and we're still cool about each other. so here's my question, if i were to go back to her, would that violate the 3 month rule?

JuneBug · 10-07-08, 05:40

Aviator16 - no, once you've put in your three months - you're good. Sometimes you break up over stupid stuff and realize it later, if you can get the fire started again, don't bring up crap from the past. It's ok to cherish the good times, but start with a new outlook. You've been there - been apart, and now you see how much she means to you.

Aviator16 · 10-07-08, 05:56

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Originally Posted by JuneBug

Aviator16 - no, once you've put in your three months - you're good. Sometimes you break up over stupid stuff and realize it later, if you can get the fire started again, don't bring up crap from the past. It's ok to cherish the good times, but start with a new outlook. You've been there - been apart, and now you see how much she means to you.

Oooooohh ok. thanks junebug, we had just started talking again so i wasn't sure, its still gonna take alot of consideration, the break up was cool and all i just didn't know how the man law played into it all lol.

JuneBug · 10-08-08, 10:22

Actually, there's nothing wrong about getting back together for "good times" if you're both ok with it. I can certainly understand how hard it is to find someone and if you have an ex that you get along with and you're both free... You may decide to give it another shot. I had a relationship like that for a few years, then we finally settled down with other people, but remain friends to this day, just no foolin around!

bookeem · 10-08-08, 11:29

M.O.B. and u will be fine..

M54 · 10-12-08, 08:24

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Originally Posted by hXc drummer23

Well it all started last night. I found out that she was having a campout. She invited other guys and not me, so I broke up with her last night just because I was pissed off. I called her this morning and she told me that she was going to break up with me after prom anyway. (prom is in like 2 weeks). I already have all my stuff for prom and I cant return it. And I cant go to prom unless I go with her becuase Im a sophmore and she is a senior and it is a Junior Senior prom. I am just really depressed and had to detail someone's car while I was really depressed. This just sucks though becuase we have been going out for 1 year and 7 months. At our 1 year anniversary, we bought each other rings that were engraved with the date. We did that because we thought we were going to be married one day. I am just really depressed right now and just wanted to get this out to someone.

Man ole man,your pissin in the wind.It seems your not her main priority.

Don't fret,chase other girls because I know has to be another one

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