Getting Through Break-Ups

stiffdogg06 · 11-15-07, 09:31

Ok, I currently went through a romantic 2 year relationship. How do you guys move on? I feel like its too hard... I lost a lot of friends from going to college and from dating her. So I guess going out with single friends isn't an option. Every time I think about her, I just tell myself. I can do better, that she didn't treat me as well as I should have been treated.

So I just want to know what have you guys done to get through a break up. Especially one that was a surprise to you. I left her house last night, on good terms. I wake up and get a text saying we should go our separate ways. I mean, how do you handle that type of thing? She said it isn't another guy. And I believe her. I do think her friends pressure her into these types of things.

/endrant

Thanks guys!

- Andrew

weekendwarrior · 11-15-07, 09:40

Don't take this the wrong way, because I know you cared for this girl, but if she broke up with you via a text message, I don't think she was classy enough for you.

You just have to not let yourself get depressed and become a hermit. Make sure you attend as many social events as you can. It can't hurt to make contact with some of your old friends, and tell them that you realize your relationship with her hurt those friendships, and you realize that was a mistake, and would like to be friends agian.

Just a thought.

dave40co · 11-15-07, 09:44

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Originally Posted by stiffdogg06

Ok, I currently went through a romantic 2 year relationship. How do you guys move on? I feel like its too hard... I lost a lot of friends from going to college and from dating her. So I guess going out with single friends isn't an option. Every time I think about her, I just tell myself. I can do better, that she didn't treat me as well as I should have been treated.

So I just want to know what have you guys done to get through a break up. Especially one that was a surprise to you. I left her house last night, on good terms. I wake up and get a text saying we should go our separate ways. I mean, how do you handle that type of thing? She said it isn't another guy. And I believe her. I do think her friends pressure her into these types of things.

/endrant

Thanks guys!

- Andrew

As my Dad used to tell me, "Women are like street cars, one comes along every 15 minutes!" When I was dating years ago, I went through a couple off heartbreaks with women. You can't eat or sleep etc... What you need to do is join a new group or take a up a new hobby. Refocus those negative feelings into some positive energy. DO NOT dwell on this as it will consume all of your time and energy. DO NOT talk to her friends about it, call her, or stalk. If you happen to see her on the street be cordial and act as if you are doing fine. Remember, these things happen for a good reason. Best of luck to you!

mr.ikon · 11-15-07, 10:08

Aww man Stiffdogg. Sorry to hear this. But really though, breaking up through text message is just weak. That is like high school stuff.

Its time to move on. And just like the others said, keep up with new people. Even just getting out will keep your mind focused on the life ahead. Sometimes, you'll look back on your relationship and just think of how good it was. It just cant be helped. This thing just takes time. You'll get over it soon.

3wide · 11-15-07, 10:20

time heals all wounds. one day you'll wake up and realize it was all for the best.

a wise man once told me this: marriage has ruined alot of good friendships.

just think of it this way now you can do what ever you want, whenever you want to do it, hang in there it'll get better.

Eliot Ness · 11-15-07, 10:26

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Originally Posted by dave40co

As my Dad used to tell me, "Women are like street cars, one comes along every 15 minutes!" ..........

I like that quote!

Hang in there Andrew, sometimes you get hit with something like this and all you can do is move on, it might not be easy right now, but it will get progressively better as time passes. Believe me on this, it will get better! Find new friends, get reacquainted with some old friends, stay busy, and try not to dwell on the negative.

It's probably something she's been thinking about for a long time, who knows. Consider yourself fortunate to find out sooner rather than later that it wasn't to be. I wouldn't be in a hurry to jump into a new relationship, but if you meet the right person, go for it. Sometimes not having a SO does have benefits. Go get a Massey's pizza and buy yourself something nice for Christmas, something you've been thinking about for a while but didn't want to spend the money on.

Note to other members: the reference to Massey's Pizza is a Central Ohio thing..... geez, now I'm getting hungry.

stiffdogg06 · 11-15-07, 10:36

Thanks guys! Just reading this helped me a lot. It's nice to know I am not the only one that has been through this.

Yeah it was immature of her to do it that way. I mean she just texts me that she don't want to talk to me.. And I just wonder, what did I do wrong? But like I said, she def. didn't treat me very well.

I was looking at some nice new rims for the civic

THANKS AGAIN GUYS!!! Sorry about the rant. I just needed to get it out. I don't really have anyone to talk to. And you guys are basically family, so I said what the hell! Thanks again guys!

- Andrew

Andy 73 · 11-15-07, 10:40

You just didn't get the text.. go on over and say hello what text. Andy

dirtdiggler · 11-15-07, 10:46

"I mean she just texts me that she don't want to talk to me"

sound like she has moved on and dating someone else and prior to the break up. best way to handle this is to leave her alone.. she will probably think of you and wonder how you are doing and ask your common friends. look at it this way, better now than after christmas after spending gobs of money.. now go out buy your self something nice.. like zymol vintage.

oh btw - nice rims on ohio craiglist - seems columbus is the mecca for civics.

dirt diggler

stiffdogg06 · 11-15-07, 10:50

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Originally Posted by dirtdiggler

"I mean she just texts me that she don't want to talk to me"

sound like she has moved on and dating someone else and prior to the break up. best way to handle this is to leave her alone.. she will probably think of you and wonder how you are doing and ask your common friends. look at it this way, better now than after christmas after spending gobs of money.. now go out buy your self something nice.. like zymol vintage.

oh btw - nice rims on ohio craiglist - seems columbus is the mecca for civics.

dirt diggler

Well i guess it all started with her getting a job. Her job basically only allows us to see each other for an hour out of the day except when she is off and I have the day off. And so we talked at her house last night, I told her I will make this work and I have no doubts. I left with a hug and a kiss. I wake up @ 8:30am with a text saying we should go our separate ways and she is telling me NOW she has doubts and not last night... And I've tried to text her to get an answer, because I am human and I do like closure. And she just says she don't want to talk to me. So I gave up and now I am looking at a nice camera or set of rims for the civic

- Andrew

bigfoot · 11-15-07, 11:23

Sorry to hear about the loss, Bro, but if she didn't had the cojones to tell you in your face, she's not worth it. Please do not take it to the wrong side, I have had similar befores, and later I realized that it was better to let go.

Joshua312 · 11-15-07, 11:34

Sorry to hear this man, almost exactly a year ago my girlfriend did the same thing two days prior to our 2 1/2 year mark. I thought I wouldn't ever be happy again and here I am today....I have made the decision to stay single until I find the right girl to date, I'm not into the whole casual dating thing. So my two cents would be to go hang out with some friends that are girls and just enjoy yourself with no pressure. I have matured so much in the past year after going through what you are going through and I have no doubt that you are going to come out of this stronger..it will just take a little time. If ya ever need someone to rant to or talk to I'm always willing to chat man