Breaking the Ice with Girls - Page 2

Diesel1 · 01-22-07, 11:29

I am on the shy side myself so I would never approach a chic (In a bar or out in public). They either approached me or I met them through friends.

A wise man once said....."He who hesitates, masturbates"........

So many instances I look back on and wish that I shoulda, coulda, woulda......All I can say is that the wise man was pretty damn accurate!

Go for what you want! Just be polite and respectful although most college girls don't appreciate that.......the good ones will though although they are few n far between!

themightytimmah · 01-22-07, 12:31

Make an ugly girl friend - they usually have cute friends and that way you get a good idea of other girls' background and reputation, and you can usually avoid the crazy ones.

That, or if worst comes to worst, a good smile's your friend. A simple "Hey, what's happening" works wonders if you carry yourself right.

I try to stay away from lines, they've never really worked for me but YMMV.

Invigor · 01-22-07, 12:40

gotta talk and walk with confidence...not too over-confident though. Don't think about being smooth, hooking up, etc all that junk. .just plain and simple chat with a stranger...talk to her like a person, rather than putting ***** on a pedestal and you'll be fine. There's no need to be shy...I used to be, then one day decided what's the point of being shy...it doesn't get ya anywhere...Just don't be overbearing or you'll come off as desperate.

thesacrifice · 01-22-07, 12:58

Nothing but humor meant towards the original poster, but i'd kick my own *** if I ever said that to a woman.

Just be yourself. If you pretend to be someone else, you've got a lot of pretending to do if you intent to bring that relationship to fruition. I have a long time girlfriend and it's that way because I've been my goofy self since day one (check out my new signature.)

Start slow, where are you going to meet these girls? In class? Start with Hi/bye, move to hey we should study sometime or what are you up to this weekend?

Like most have said, be confident without being cocky. Get her to talk about herself, and be interested. 1. it shows interest 2. people like to hear themselves talk. People that don't know you, don't care that ZFX isn't as hard to use as some autopians make it out to be.

Just remember, you won't catch a fish everytime you put the hook in the water....sort through the **** and catch the gold.

toyotaguy · 01-22-07, 03:44

in a bar...walk past a girl, smile at her, say whats up, tell her your going to the other side of the bar and if she wants to join you, then she is welcome to...

that way you have opened the door for her to choose, not being pressured to talk to you...and you dont really get rejected if she doesnt come along because you never really engaged in any real conversation to get to know her at that point...how can you get rejected and feel bad about it if you never talked to her....

and the other thing is to actually pay attention to what she is saying...if she talks about her dead grandma with a smile on her face, she is obviously trying to see if you are paying attention, and if you are laughing with her, she knows you are not!

Also, you have to choose your conversations carefully. You dont talk about serious things in a bar with a girl you are trying to get to know. Save that for the dinner date you set up with her a month down the road. Keep your wittiness, humor, and playful side out in the open for the times when you are in a bar, out with a bunch of people, etc. Keep the deep conversations for when you two are alone and she wants to talk about it...Nothing kills your chances more than forcing a girl to talk about something she doesnt feel like talking about at that moment. If she wants to talk about detailing, talk it up. If she wants to talk about the SAINTS blowing the game the other week, then talk about it. If she asks one thing about you, ask two about her! That right there will ensure you a longer conversation.

and always leave her guessing what else there might be to know about you. If she knows everything from the first night, you just ****ed yourself for a 2nd date! and leave her with a witty smart *** comment that makes both of you laugh as you walk away...it will be the last thing she remembers about the night and it will make her smile...thats a good thing!

and depending on the type of girl, pick-up lines DONT WORK, unless they are original and come out naturally! the lame ones like lets go get a pizza and a F!@#, what you dont like pizza?? dont go over well with most girls...but the suttle "you're beautiful" and walk away with a wink has worked numerous times for me. She might stay where she is at while I go to the bar and get a drink, i'll turn around and look right at her looking at me, ill raise my glass and nod, then she will come over and engage in conversation...something like "wow you have no idea who my boyfriend is do you, the owner of the club!" and ill say, "what I wasnt hitting on you, i was just complimenting your good looks"...or i may get the conversation starter like "wow, no one has ever done that to me before, you made my night and made me feel really good about myself tonight, thanks" and I will take the conversation wherever it leads...

but dont go to the same bar over and over and dress the same, talk the same, be with the same people all the time. one thing girls dont like in a bar is seeing all the same people over and over...it gets old. You walk in with 4 friends to one bar on monday, the same friends on tuesday, and the same friends on wednesday, you are wasting your time. Sometimes a girl will not walk up and engage in conversation with a guy based on the friends he is with (maybe the friends are not good looking or whatever, but who is going to talk and hang out with her friends while she talks to you???) That is where you come in and take over the situation..TALK TO ALL OF THEM, but talk to the one you are interested in with a little more attention and a little more physical touching (hands, arms, waist, not the bedroom type touching....that just tells a girl you want one thing from her, maybe you do, but dont be like every other guy to get her into bed...and by you talking to her friends, you show you are able to get along with them and have a good time. Her friends were there first and they will be there long past you that night, so its best to get in with all of them!!! Bringing different friends will make your chances greater if she sees you with her different friends. It brings more options to the table, and who knows, you may have seen her first, but become more interested in her friends and vice versa!!!

that was a long post...

Scottwax · 01-22-07, 04:44

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Originally Posted by Diesel1

A wise man once said....."He who hesitates, masturbates"........

Then again, that would build your muscles have hand polishing....

Spilchy · 01-22-07, 07:24

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Works like a champ every time. You get the entire bar's attention.

I use it at work during serious moments, planting it behind a computer monitor and everyone laughs hysterically.

Nothing is funnier and more ice breaking than a wet fart. Everyone is in great spirits after a good ripping toot or two or twenty.

Basshog · 01-23-07, 08:06

Thanks for the info guys...I appreciate it.

"He who hesitates, masturbates"

-ToyotaGuy- My screen saver came up while reading your post because it was so long! Good Information though

Diesel1 · 01-23-07, 11:55

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Originally Posted by Scottwax

Then again, that would build your muscles have hand polishing....

Yeah but what about the other hand???????

Name this movie....

"Sometimes I like to sit on my left hand until it goes numb then do it....I call it..... the stranger"

Joshua312 · 01-23-07, 12:15

Diesel I have heard that on the Chapelle show before...Funny line

A lot of good advice given in this thread, I too am very shy when it comes to meeting new people, especially girls but I would just have to say be yourself and don't try to put yourself on a pedestal like the girl should be begging for you. Trust me I know how hard it is too approach people with confidence. I wish you all the best...

--This information coming from a guy who has given up on love and searching, therefore you can't hold me accountable if my information fails you

CkretAjint · 01-23-07, 03:18

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Originally Posted by Diesel1

Name this movie....

"Sometimes I like to sit on my left hand until it goes numb then do it....I call it..... the stranger"

Gone In 60 Seconds....

Home run Hero · 01-23-07, 07:47

Walk in the bar (or grocery store) or wherever you see an interesting girl and let out a [sigh] and say, "-Wow-, I had a busy day at work...[whew!] , but you know... it always makes me feel better when a pretty girl smiles! Would you smile for me?"
"Aw...thank you!"

This has never, ever failed me to get at least a smile from the girl and I'm complimenting her at the same time.
I told her she was pretty and I flirted with her.
(If I ever did get a negative response with this one, I don't want to get to know her anyway).