Over-reacting?

jrocc1212 · 04-05-05, 07:48

Yesterday, my GF's van got keyed BAD.

I told her I will get some touch up paint and do what I could.... long story short... she asks what I would do if I caught somebody scratching my paint and she then ran her freakin nail across it. I cursed in spanish and pulled her hand away. She knew I had just spent endless hours polishing the darn thing AND I've told her numerous times how the paint is as soft as butter. She insisted it was not scratched and was about to wipe it again when I warned her to not even touch it. She wanted an apology for my reaction and I refused and will continue to refuse because that was just uncalled for and a straight spit in the face. She's done things like lay boxes ot the roof and drag them across and also wiping dirt off with her hand. That's all understandable and I showed her the aftermath without being mean and she understood. BUT this just really pushed my buttons.
Anybody hear me out there?
Yes, the world is not gonna end because of a scratch... but there's so much more behind it.
Best comparison I could give her was me taking acetone to her toenails after she had just got done painting and me just saying, LIGHTEN UP!
It just ain't right.
Anybody agree?

Axe · 04-05-05, 07:52

The police probably have the best approach to these situations .... 'never get involved in a domestic'

DanoWatt · 04-05-05, 07:56

Sounds like somebody's got a little Latin in them.

jrocc1212 · 04-05-05, 07:56

No, I didn't shove her away or anything. It was more the words---Bleeping bleep, why the bleep you do that?

jrocc1212 · 04-05-05, 07:58

So you guys saying I'm a nutcase?

DanoWatt · 04-05-05, 08:01

Maybe, but you can make it sound good by using the term "passionate" instead of "crazy".

White95Max · 04-05-05, 08:05

You'll have to give in and apologize some time!

I'd be p*ssed too though. My dad and brother are both like that sometimes. My brother put a box on the trunk last weekend and dragged it across the paint. Both of them seem to do that cr*p just to p*ss me off, and for no other particular reason.
I understand that I have accident damage on my car, but I still don't need any more scratches. And since I'll be getting a new car soon, I'll be REALLY p*ssed if they do that stuff to the new car.

jrocc1212 · 04-05-05, 08:05

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Originally posted by DanoWatt
Maybe, but you can make it sound good by using the term "passionate" instead of "bat**** crazy".

I take it you've never dedicated a weekend to getting your ride in condition. Might wanna edit the cursing there

jrocc1212 · 04-05-05, 08:08

Thanks, White95Max. I don't mess with people like that, which is why I find it hard to understand.

O4cobra · 04-05-05, 08:09

Hey jroc,

I don't think you overreacted one bit. Pushing her hand away is not a domestic problem. She tried to damage your property and you were protecting what is yours. She is your GF, so nothing bad there.

I would have a serious chat with my GF if she did that. I'm sorry that is uncalled for. You offered to fix her car and you were trying to make her feel better, and she kicks you right in the balls! I would leave the key marks in her car and say sorry I had to spend the time on my car because you decided to run your nails across mine. That is really not cool at all, I know that would never happen with mine so I can't think "well what if". Sorry to hear it jroc, not cool at all.

Take some of her "b-day, anniversary, x-mas" money and buy some new products, and then detail your car again to remove the "nail"marks.

Really not cool, and if anyone says you are overeacting, I think they are wrong. Now if you hit her, or something like that I could see their argument, but you just bitched her out!

fryebaby · 04-05-05, 08:38

It doesn't seem like she was very considerate. Being your girl friend she knows how much you love your car and how well you take of it. She should learn to be careful around it. But to make the peace you may have to say your sorry. Tell her that it seemed like she was hurting you on purpose and thats why you reacted like you did. Good luck with the relationship, Wes

milky_08 · 04-05-05, 08:42

Hi jrocc

I know how it feels.. just like those who replied, my dad always puts his beer bottles in the trunk area and drags them across. People here always run their fingers when they see my car dirty.

It's just that some people can't understand why I get pissed, and I make them understand when I make an example using something that I think is meaningful for them.. and if the can't understand what I'm trying to say, then they won't hear an apology from me.
Well in my case if it was my bf who did it, I'll beat him first

jk after getting mad I usually polish again and apologize once it gets fixed