Help With Asking Girlfriend To Marry Me

RedondoV6 · 01-18-05, 07:53

Well, I spoke to my jeweler today and I finally ordered a one-off hand made engagement ring for my girlfriend, Kat.

Question now is, how do I ask her to marry me? I'm brain-storming like crazy here, something original, fun, romantic and memorable. This is the 'second time around' for both of us and I want the whole experience to be one that Kat will remember vividly for a long time. Travel overseas is not an option due to work commitments.

If anyone has any good ideas, I'd really like to hear them

Setec Astronomy · 01-18-05, 08:01

This is one for a female Autopian, methinks.

thinksnow · 01-18-05, 08:09

1) Have you gotten the father's blessing? That is fairly traditional, but it will stay in the family's memory banks for quite some time.

2) Did you have a good first date location? Obviously Chili's or the local Regal 32 isn't the best spot, but if you were at a park or at the beach, revisit.

3) Don't go my friend's route. He tossed the box on the bed and asked: "So, what do you think?" Yes, they are happily married, but that approach will work for one in four billion.

RedondoV6 · 01-18-05, 08:11

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Originally posted by Setec Astronomy
This is one for a female Autopian, methinks.

Yep! Help from the Autopian ladies would be very welcome!

But some of you Autopian guys must have given this some thought at some time?

RedondoV6 · 01-18-05, 08:25

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Originally posted by thinksnow
1) Have you gotten the father's blessing? That is fairly traditional, but it will stay in the family's memory banks for quite some time.

2) Did you have a good first date location? Obviously Chili's or the local Regal 32 isn't the best spot, but if you were at a park or at the beach, revisit.

3) Don't go my friend's route. He tossed the box on the bed and asked: "So, what do you think?" Yes, they are happily married, but that approach will work for one in four billion.

I hear you on asking her Dad first. We are both a little older, but Kat's family is very traditional and I hope to speak to her father sometime over the next few days.

The beach is possibility, we visit Beaufort or Hilton Head 5 or 6 times a year for long weekends. May be charter a boat ride at sunset or just ask her while taking an early morning walk along the beach.

Too funny about your friends approach to popping the question! Mind you, I'm sure she will remember that!

MaThGr82 · 01-18-05, 09:30

Well I'll let you know how I did it. That might help???

I bought the ring in Feb of 2002. We planned a vacation to San Diego for Memorial day that year. About a month before we went I bought her a nice Diamond necklace that I knew she would like and that actually matched the ring I had gotten her. She knew about the necklace but not about the ring. She was actually there with me when I bought the necklace and when I bought it, I told her I would give it to her later as a present.

Well we went over to San Diego on May 27th, 2002 and the first day we were there we went to the San Diego Zoo and then went and checked into the hotel around 5pm. We were very tired because we had driven over that morning and had been at the freaking zoo all day so we went to sleep when we got to the room. Well, I woke her up around 11pm and told her to come out on the balcony. We had a hotel right on Pacific Beach and our rooms balcony was overlooking the ocean. We hung out there for a bit and we drank some wine for a little bit and I asked her if she wanted her present. I told her to close her eyes though and to act like it was a surprise at least. She thought I was going to be giving her the necklace she knew about. Well, while she had her eyes closed, I told her how much I loved her and would like to spend the rest of my life with her. I told her a few other personal things and then I asked her to marry me. When she opened her eyes I was down on one knee and had the ring in my hand. She loved it and we ended up getting married Jan 10th of 2004. Best of luck to you RedondoV6 and if you have any type of relationship with her father, I would recommend asking him. My father-in-law appreciated it immensely. He thought it was very cool and it actually made us better friends because of it.

stevet · 01-18-05, 09:50

Don't do it:scared

Just jokeing

Scott P · 01-19-05, 05:36

We had our first date at a chinese restaurant. When I proposed, I made chinese for dinner (I do it all the time), but made my own fortune for the fortune cookie.

Will you marry me?

I think I went through a dozen fortune cookies trying to pull the old fortune out and put the new one in without breaking the cookie.

nogrille · 01-19-05, 06:01

here's a good one for you:

get it placed in a display case at a local museum / art centre / expensive jewellery shop / whatever, with a card saying"Kats engagement ring" next to it. Then pay a visit to the display case, point it out, drop to one knee and hope she says yes!

HRP · 01-19-05, 06:05

I'm a barbershopper. and I'm reasonably sure there is a barbershop chapter near you. Most of us are practicing to send singing Valentines quartets out next month as chapter fundraisers so we're ready now. For 50 bucks, you can have a quartet sing a couple of love songs to her at a time and location of your choice, and with almost any advance notice, they (and you) can come up with a unique and memorable musical way for you to ask her to marry you.
Go to www.spebsqsa.org or for a list of the South Carolina chapters : http://www.dixiedistrict.org/page2-05.htm
for the nearest chapter to you.

This is something we love to do because most of us are real romantics!!! Besides, she'll be so impressed by your getting 4 guys in tuxedos to sing love songs to her FROM YOU, she really can't say no!

Eliot Ness · 01-19-05, 06:17

Well, you do have Valentines Day right around the corner which is the perfect time to “pop the question.”

Depending on how creative you want to be it could be at the end of a nice romantic dinner, or during one of those quiet “walks on the beach” times, although February may not be the best time for that. Think of some of the places you’ve been that have a special memory for the both of you.

There are some things that never go out of style in a situation like this: romantic candlelit dinners, quiet times on the beach, sunrise, or sunset. And no matter how you do it, rest assured, it will be a “special” day that she will always remember. Best wishes to you both!

PrinzII · 01-19-05, 06:25

I have something highly elaborate in mind for mine. Let's just say it's a work in process.