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Originally Posted by jordanrossbell
Things like always paying for everything, even after a long time..which i was raised to always do no matter what...being supportive in times of her need..doing nice things for her just because (detailing her car, sending her flowers, surprising her with the little things)..all of these constitute treating a woman right, along with the obvious things like love, respect, and integrity...
The path i am going with this is, i feel my girl doesnt reciprocate those things back to me in any shape or form..dont get me wrong, she loves me i know but sometimes the other 2 arent really there, so it is hard to feel like she *truly* loves me...
What would/do you do when you cant help but feel like this? Anyone have experience with this....
Comments like "when are you going to do my car again?" "Where are you taking me to eat." "How much are you going to spend on me for Christmas?"
The situation that set this off was the following (sorry in advance for the long-winded post)
I recently went back home to dalhart, TX for Christmas with my parents. My girl lives in Hobbs, NM while i reside in Albuquerque, NM..a long distance thing..been together for 3 years...and my roommates stayed here while i was gone for christmas and kinda made a mess of our house..well the day i returned to albuquerque, my girlfriends uncle was in the hospital with leukemia pretty much on his death bed, i got into town and headed up to the hospital to see him one last time (only met him a couple of times) and stayed and lended support for her entire family for about 6 hours. I then asked them if i could buy them dinner in the subway downstairs in the cafeteria..i mentioned that my roommates were now gone to visit their families and that i had extra rooms if they would like to crash at my place so they wouldnt have to pay for a hotel..her 2 sisters, brother, and cousin took me up on it and when i got home, the house was pretty dirty, not too bad..but she wouldnt shut up about how dirty she thought it was..i wasnt even there give me a break. I said then fine go get a hotel room if you arent satisfied..of course she declined and proceeded to be mad that i even said that...the moral of my story is that i dont think she appreciates anything i do for/with her anymore..she was more concerned with what i was going to get for her to eat in the morning...any advice on what i should do to stop feeling this way..do i cut her loose or just stop doting on her?
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Cut her loose.
The issue is not with her as we have the right to be who we want to be.
The question you should ask yourself:
is this all am I worth?
There is nothing wrong with finding a partner who respects you equally.
These are of course only my opinions.
Good luck working it out, I know how you must feel.