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Originally Posted by wytstang
"When in doubt, When in fear, DROP A GEAR AND DISAPPEAR"
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I had to lol at this!
To be honest I had a big discussion with my Ex about this just before she left me. She was doing a lot of the same things your fiancee was doing, well minus the cat crap thing. I would always be the one to take the dishes out of the washer and take the clothes out of the dryer and she would never put her stuff away. She said it was because she wanted me to do it every once and a while for her, but she has her own little closet system and how she wants her stuff put away and I had tried to put her stuff away for her and she got upset because I did it wrong and she couldn't find the clothes she wanted.
Like I said she left me at the beginning of the month (made a thread about it here) and she actually left me for a guy shes known for 3 weeks and a guy that was supposed to be my friend. Her and I have recently started to be civil towards each other and she's more confused and unhappy with her current situation and about what she wants now because shes starting to think that maybe the little stuff that we used to fight about (like laundry) wasn't really worth ending the relationship for (her and I were together for almost 5 years too). Maybe a trial separation would work. Just don't talk to her or see her for a month and see how things go. To be honest I don't believe that a man and woman can't be compatible or work out as long as you love each other. It's a matter of being able to compromise on issues. Maybe the trial separation will make her realize what's really important and that it's not worth losing a great relationship over something small like that. I know that's what happening with my ex right now. Everyone can see she's not happy just by looking at her. The only thing is I probably won't be taking her back anytime soon if it comes to that. Ya'll still may have a chance though.
What I do agree with everyone on though is that you should get these issues resolved before the wedding, even if that means pushing the date back. I refused to even get engaged to my ex before we could even work out our issues.