[nrengle]

I've tried all that. Tonight the thing that just pushed it over the top for me is, one of her cats **** in the house. And she was already in bed watching TV, and said "I'll get it in the morning, I'm too tired now!" F THAT! At this point I have a pretty heft gift for her for Xmas and I'm not so sure I want to give it to her now. It's like you want to leave this till morning? WTH are you going to do if you / we ever have kids, leave it till morning? I refuse to clean up after her cats, cause she has quite a few more than I like (7 total, I like cats but damn!).

When I do confront her on it, it's not loud, or mean, it's just a single monotone voice. And it's me trying to keep my cool cause there's days I just want to blow up.

I clean quite a bit myself. I spent two hours the other day, running the sweeper, dusting, moping the floors and cleaning the bathroom. First thing she does, lets all the cats in, which get fur and mud everywhere, and then throws the mail on the floor along with her coat, and left it there. I was livid. I just spent 2 hours cleaning, and that's how you repay me? She wants to remodel the kitchen, and she said she'd finish the painting while I was out on my last tour, (its a 2x3 section under a built in desk that hurts my back to get to). Never finished.... So I'm not doing the remodel now till she straightens things up...

I'm quite honestly afraid that if I go through with this wedding that it's just going to end up in a big nasty divorce anyways.