[nrengle]

How do you guys deal with a lazy girlfriend / wife? IE One that doesn't clean up, leaves a mess everywhere, and does that "I'll do it later" routine? I'm at my wits end with my fiancee. She rather **** around on the internet then clean up her mess, wheather it be dirty dishes, laundry, her cats, whatever. I throw the stuff on the bed, she puts it on the floor, I put her clothes on top of the dryer after she's dried them 3 times instead of folding them, and they'll sit there for a week. I'm over it, and anytime I confront her about it, even in a calm voice she says I'm yelling at her. I don't even raise my voice (to prove a point one day I had a DB meter in the room, stayed the same DB average the whole time). We're getting married in 2 months, and quite honestly I don't think I want to be married to a slob if she keeps this up. What do I do? I'm out of ideas to reason with her. I've even gone so far as to place a sticky note on a newspaper when I left for tour with the date, and it was still there when I got home 2 months later. ***!?!?!?! Yet I'm in the wrong if I tell her that she needs to clean the place up. It's not much to ask to come back to a clean home after 2 months on the road with a bunch of dudes, on a bus with no space is it?