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Originally Posted by jordanrossbell

It is actually nice for me to see that others are struggling with the same problems i am, not to take joy in your time of frustration but i can offer this advice from a 23 yr old POV...

Once a girl figures she can cold shoulder and guilt you into doing/not doing what you want or need to do, the problem wont end there my friend...pretty soon it will be that you cant go out to a bar with your friends, or even detail!! Insecure people belong with insecure people, that way their obsessions can cancel out, but if one is insecure and the other isnt, it will just turn into a game of hurt feelings and fighting...i would never disrespect any woman on purpose, and certainly a fellow detailers woman, but something has to give here...the reason you want to be honest with everyone in your life is : 1) Its the right thing to do and 2) You want to be able to be trusted in the future...there are people that when they tell me something, i have no doubts it is true..and one of those is my girlfriend after 3 years...and it is a slippery slope sir when trust is compromised, and it sounds like she wont trust you after this because you have in here eyes, "disrespected her wishes." Just be careful because this can become a trend...but above all else be true to your family and go, and if she breaks your heart, you know that this wasnt the one that the man upstairs picked for you, but if she is cool with you after this, then you have crossed a barrier..and it will be a blessing either way...

This man speaks the truth! I went through the same thing in my relationship. She was very controlling and tried to keep me from hanging out with a few of my friends which weren't/aren't bad guys by any means. Then once I about to turn 21 she started talking about how she doesn't support people who have beer in there house and go out drinking...but yet the year and a half that we dated she would go out with her friends and dance and drink.

Good luck and