[Accumulator]

Originally Posted by jfelbab

I guess I'm old school as I believe it is just common courtesy to treat others, men and women, with chivalry...

Ah, took the words right out of my mouth

I will say that I sometimes temper my impulses in this regard (towards women) if I think that my intentions might be misinterpreted. I understand the wariness that some feel towards the "helpful stranger" who might harbor untoward motives.

Originally Posted by MASKDMARVL

When you give, and its taken for granted. Used against you, how do you feel ?

Eh..it just rolls off my back; the only thing I care about is that I did what I thought was right. I'll admit that *really* nasty responses (vulgar invectives) to simple things like holding a door will sometimes elicit a little quip about common courtesy not being gender-specific if I'm in the mood.

Heh heh, I've had women *severely* misinterpret my intentions (to the point of causing a real scene) I usually compliment them on their vigilance and willingness to do what they consider necessary to ensure their safety.

These days I offer any assistance from a distance and at the first sign of reluctance on their part I drop it. An unsolicited "let me help you with that" *oughta* get a woman's defenses up IMO.